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Are married couples allowed to watch porn in Christianity?

#11Polish_CrusaderPosted 11/23/2012 3:33:46 PM
This is a hard question for me. The problem is- watching porn is lusting over somebody else. If you lust over someone else besides your wife you will burn in hell. That is adultery.

However watching porn of you and your wife from previous sex i think is a different story. Oh gosh... LOL... this reminds me someone should start a site called "christian porn" where married couples make their own videos or something like that. lol ok thats just wrong. bad joke
#12SilviiroPosted 11/23/2012 3:36:53 PM
However watching porn of you and your wife from previous sex i think is a different story.

In the context of this topic you made me think of a man showing his wife porn he made with a previous wife. Just the thought is incredibly awkward.
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#13bfslick50Posted 11/23/2012 10:26:37 PM
Silviiro posted...
I see nothing wrong with it as long as they are not desiring after one of the participants. Lust gets thrown around too lightly in recent centuries. Watching pornography doesn't mean you truly desire to have sex with the participants any more than watching Saw means you want to brutally murder people.


Of course in the porn you are watching people actually sin. In Saw, you aren't watching people actually get murdered. I imagine it's a sin if you're getting enjoyment out of others sinning. The only loophole would be softcore where they don't actually do it or if the couple in it were actually married.
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#14Hustle KongPosted 11/23/2012 10:54:26 PM
"The only loophole would be softcore where they don't actually do it or if the couple in it were actually married."

In the case of a film where the couple is married, is voyeurism really something you think would be okay?
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#15Hustle KongPosted 11/23/2012 10:55:03 PM
And I don't know if the idea of a "loophole" should apply to right and wrong.
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#16OzymandiasIVPosted 11/24/2012 12:15:54 AM
I'm glad I no longer have to lay awake at night wondering if my natural urges are going to cause me to act in such a way that will send me to hell.

Too many religious people put sex on a pedestal (at least when discussing it publicly). Sex can be a very intimate, personal act between loving people, but it can also be a fun activity that doesn't have to perpetually carry such huge emotional baggage. Porn is fun, whether by yourself or with your partner. Swinging can be fun as well.
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#17anavriNPosted 11/24/2012 3:46:37 AM(edited)
OzymandiasIV posted...
I'm glad I no longer have to lay awake at night wondering if my natural urges are going to cause me to act in such a way that will send me to hell.

Too many religious people put sex on a pedestal (at least when discussing it publicly). Sex can be a very intimate, personal act between loving people, but it can also be a fun activity that doesn't have to perpetually carry such huge emotional baggage. Porn is fun, whether by yourself or with your partner. Swinging can be fun as well.


I fully agree with this. If having and expressing sexual urges is so god-awful indeed, then I would rather not have had them. If a biological imperative is horrible enough to damn a person to Hell, then who/whatever invented this imperative is the most abhorrent thing in existence. In such a scenario, giving sexual urges to human beings is no less than proxy rape.

I was raised on the idea that sex creates some holy union between two people, 'becoming one flesh'. The real kicker is that the person I have loved the most in my life by no comparison is someone I never had sex with, whereas there are girls I've had no-strings attached sex with for whom I have no deeper feelings.

I did learn that sex can strengthen bonds that are already there (sometimes the hard way). But indeed, sometimes sex is simply 'fun'. It's kind of decadent, and I prefer the sex you have with someone you're madly in love with, but it's true no less: sex can be caviar, but sometimes it's a hamburger.


Incidentally, I just realized once again how almost everything becomes a euphemism for sex if you look hard enough. I had to resist placing "no pun intended" after a few sentences.
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#18Hustle KongPosted 11/24/2012 9:17:17 AM(edited)
I have occasional bouts of anger and I think society is better off if I keep that natural urge in check.

It might not damn me to hell, but there are definite reasons to not just go all chaotic neutral on everybody's asses with my "urges".

And yes, sex and violence are two different things. Same with overeating. But they are all natural inclinations that need self-discipline.

And just like I avoid hamburgers, I'm sure as hell going to avoid hamburger sex.
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#19roduPosted 11/24/2012 9:20:50 AM
hamburger sex eh.......brb
#20SuibomPosted 11/24/2012 9:35:00 AM
Does that make "Hamburger Helper" a euphemism for Viagra?

Cracked just did an article on ways men sabotage their sex life, and porn was listed as one way due to desensitization. That because of the increased amount and access to internet porn, ED is becoming a very real problem for men... in their twenties.
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