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Anyone ever fasted from something other than food?

#1Mighty-OregonPosted 4/16/2013 5:24:39 PM
So my wife and I went to church this past Sunday and the pastor mentioned about a fasting that only will last 21 days. Don't know why it isn't 30 days... Anyways they had this card that was basically a vow to God that we were going to go through with the fasting.

Now there is no repercussion if we break it other than we broke a vow to God and the pastor mentioned its better to not make a vow to God then make one and break it. My wife vowed to give up Netflix and I'm giving up sexual desire. I'm only 2 days in and already feel how hard this is going to be for me. Every time I get the urge to even think about sexual things I start to pray. Seems like the urge goes away for like an hour then comes back strong again.

Does anyone have any encouraging scripture or books I can read to help me out? I'm honestly thinking of talking to my pastor for some help as well. I'm just getting back in my faith so I've been struggling a lot. Sexual desire is my biggest problem and I'm ashamed of it and want it to stop.

What I hope to get out of this is to stop looking at other women in a lustful way. Watching porn or looking at pornographic pictures. I even want to stop my OVER sexual desire of my wife. She loves me very much as I do of her but I know she gets annoyed or tired of my over sexual behavior towards her. This is very embarrassing to post but I need some help and prayer. Thanks and please don't judge me since I know a lot of guys go through this problem as well. I'm just getting sick of it and want to change for the better.
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#2TheRealJiraiyaPosted 4/16/2013 5:28:48 PM
Mighty-Oregon posted...
I'm giving up sexual desire.


You cant just give up sexual desire >___>
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#3LosingStreak06Posted 4/16/2013 5:43:07 PM
TheRealJiraiya posted...
You cant just give up sexual desire >___>


I agree with this. Even casting aside my opinion that sexual desire is a natural and healthy part of life, it isn't something that one can voluntarily control. I can understand you wanting to have more self-control, and the desire to avoid your sexual thoughts from becoming unhealthy, but getting rid of them altogether isn't something that I see as doable, certainly not on a quantifiable level that this fast seems to be pointed towards.
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#4Mighty-Oregon(Topic Creator)Posted 4/16/2013 5:43:20 PM
Technically you can give up the things that help crave the desire such as porn, checking out other women as they walk by, sex or rubbing one out etc. etc.

Now most would give up 1 or 2 or so. I'm giving up everything as a whole so I stop feeding into my sexual desire. I want to be able to talk to another beautiful women and not have the immoral thoughts about her floating around in my head.

I want to get rid of the porn addiction as a whole and not desire to ever want to watch it.

I just want to sexually want my wife only but in a healthy way. Not Over doing it. Now I've never cheated on my wife either just so you know.
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#5LosingStreak06Posted 4/16/2013 5:47:31 PM
Well, if porn addiction is your problem, then I'd suggest you look it up online, I'm certain Google could probably point you in some useful directions.

I'd imagine if you have a real problem with pornography, then fixing that issue will probably help you out immensely in those other areas as well.
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#6TheRealJiraiyaPosted 4/16/2013 5:50:45 PM
My best advice is walks. Back when I tried something similar before I realized there was nothing wrong with masturbation was just going on a walk whenever I felt any kind of arousal. Walks are nice, and they get you doing things and out of the room.
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#7TrollSlayer11Posted 4/16/2013 5:56:39 PM
You can't give up sexual desire. It's an urge embedded in us through millions of years of evolution. You can give up sexual conduct or behavior, but you can't give up the desire itself. That's just silly.
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#8almasbabyPosted 4/16/2013 5:57:01 PM
Yeah, as the saying goes - stay out of the lion's den. Alcoholics stay out of bars and have a slogan to avoid people, places and things that bring them closer to a drink. That doesn't mean they don't have thoughts about a drink, they just don't take action that brings them closer to one. You can do the same thing with sex, I suppose.
#9Mighty-Oregon(Topic Creator)Posted 4/16/2013 5:57:35 PM
Yes that is correct. I'm just not sure if I should try and seek help from my church... My wife and I have been going there for like a year and have never spoken once to our pastor. He's either talking to others or other things he is busy with at the end of service. So I'm not sure if its appropriate to try and talk to someone I've never met before about this. It's also embarrassing and I feel shameful, but my pastor knows people in the faith struggle with this since he's mentioned it in sermons before.
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#10SuibomPosted 4/16/2013 5:58:10 PM
Books you might find helpful:

"Celebration of Discipline" by Richard Foster
"God's Chosen Fast" - Arthur Wallis
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