I figured it out. I'm in an apartment complex in germany that all shares the wireless and they block the ps3 and things like steam somehow.
Anyways i had to get a router and hook both ps3 to it. Then i had to get a wired connection wtih the router and link to a proxy. Both the PS3s failed to connect to the internet but the link was still there and we were able to play with each other.
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