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How does one break a PC/Internet addiction? (serious thread)

#41torres007Posted 3/19/2014 3:22:18 PM
Javelin posted...
Get a hobby that takes you out of the house.


This. I do a lot of working out because it's always been something I enjoy. Lifting, running, and biking. Next week I am going to start BJJ because I use to wrestle, and I want to try a new competitive combat sport that doesn't involve me getting hit in the head
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#42BogePosted 3/19/2014 3:26:33 PM(edited)
phy2jsh posted...
I would counter that all addictions can be overcome by manning up! There are other measures that can help with certain addictions, but manning up must still be fundamental!

I'm not trying to act macho or anything. I've failed to escape quite a few addictions, but I'm always honest with myself that my lack of manning up is to blame.


I don't know about addictions because I don't have them. However, I suffer from anxiety that keeps me from doing just about everything. I've learned one thing, those that think you can just man up and get over it have never actually had this kind of problem. You CANNOT overpower those feelings inside you. Something inside you just will not allow you to do it. Part of you thinks you can just man up and do it, but why don't you?

I've argued with myself for the past 6 months heavily about this. I've asked myself over and over,"Do I have a mental illness, or am I just a big wuss?" There is no way to tell for sure since nobody is me and they aren't feeling what I'm feeling. I also don't have anything to compare it to since I've felt this way my whole life. I don't know any different. All I know is that I have a fear inside me so deep, so strong that it causes me to NOT do something and no matter how frustrated I get, I can't get it to shut up and just let me do what I want. I think most people have that anxiety, but their anxiety is a passenger in their car yelling at them,"Don't go that way! It's scary! What if something bad happens!?" Those people can just say,"Shut up. You can't do anything about it because I'm driving." I feel more like I'm the passenger saying,"Just go down this way. It will be good! You'll enjoy it!" But the driver is the anxiety saying,"No way, man! Never! I'm too scared!" If I try to grab the wheel and force him in a direction, I crash. I've tried and tried and I always crash.

I would guess that addiction is similar. My only advice is to have a friend help you. Have them pull you away from the internet and go do something else. If you can get that same kind of addiction through something more productive and healthy, that's a good thing.
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#43JKatarnPosted 3/19/2014 3:29:46 PM
The main thing to ponder is, what issues/people etc. are you avoiding by spending so much time on the internet? Generally people don't just become addicted to something randomly (porn, gambling, food, whatever it may be), there's usually some underlying stress or problem(s) in their life that they're trying to escape. Talking to a counselor would be a good start.
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#44JKatarnPosted 3/19/2014 3:32:00 PM
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#45ClouddxPosted 3/19/2014 3:32:06 PM
Boge posted...
phy2jsh posted...
I would counter that all addictions can be overcome by manning up! There are other measures that can help with certain addictions, but manning up must still be fundamental!

I'm not trying to act macho or anything. I've failed to escape quite a few addictions, but I'm always honest with myself that my lack of manning up is to blame.


I don't know about addictions because I don't have them. However, I suffer from anxiety that keeps me from doing just about everything. I've learned one thing, those that think you can just man up and get over it have never actually had this kind of problem. You CANNOT overpower those feelings inside you. Something inside you just will not allow you to do it. Part of you thinks you can just man up and do it, but why don't you?

I've argued with myself for the past 6 months heavily about this. I've asked myself over and over,"Do I have a mental illness, or am I just a big wuss?" There is no way to tell for sure since nobody is me and they aren't feeling what I'm feeling. I also don't have anything to compare it to since I've felt this way my whole life. I don't know any different. All I know is that I have a fear inside me so deep, so strong that it causes me to NOT do something and no matter how frustrated I get, I can't get it to shut up and just let me do what I want. I think most people have that anxiety, but their anxiety is a passenger in their car yelling at them,"Don't go that way! It's scary! What if something bad happens!?" Those people can just say,"Shut up. You can't do anything about it because I'm driving." I feel more like I'm the passenger saying,"Just go down this way. It will be good! You'll enjoy it!" But the driver is the anxiety saying,"No way, man! Never! I'm too scared!" If I try to grab the wheel and force him in a direction, I crash. I've tried and tried and I always crash.

I would guess that addiction is similar. My only advice is to have a friend help you. Have them pull you away from the internet and go do something else. If you can get that same kind of addiction through something more productive and healthy, that's a good thing.


I have extreme anxiety caused by lack of GABA in my body. It's terrible and I feel for you, but you need to go see a doctor if the anxiety is so bad it's literally stopping you from living your life normally.
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#46PhilOnDezPosted 3/19/2014 3:45:45 PM
Born Lucky posted...
PhilOnDez posted...
Telling me to give up the Internet would be like telling an alcoholic to have one beer or giving a heroine addict opiate based painkillers.


Contrary to what TV and public schools teach . . . that's exactly how you quit.

You STOP doing it.


Except I can't give up the Internet without losing a lot of efficiency at my fulltime job and completely giving up my part time job. If you'd actually read my post and not just what you snipped you'd have gotten that, but durrhurr public schools.
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#47LordOfLegaciesPosted 3/19/2014 5:30:55 PM
I was gonna respond to a bunch of people ITT but I'll just make a blanket statement: The ship of failure floats on a sea of excuses.
An addict has nobody to blame but themselves. The more one tries to run away from that truth, the easier it is to slip further into addiction. Frankly, when you have suffered a real addiction somebody b****ing about something as ridiculous as internet or game addiction is offensive. Grow a pair and stop making excuses. Take responsibility and drop your "woe is me" bulls***.
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#48JKatarnPosted 3/19/2014 6:05:18 PM
LordOfLegacies posted...
I was gonna respond to a bunch of people ITT but I'll just make a blanket statement: The ship of failure floats on a sea of excuses.
An addict has nobody to blame but themselves. The more one tries to run away from that truth, the easier it is to slip further into addiction. Frankly, when you have suffered a real addiction somebody b****ing about something as ridiculous as internet or game addiction is offensive. Grow a pair and stop making excuses. Take responsibility and drop your "woe is me" bulls***.


Who are you to define what is/isn't a "legitimate" addiction? Have you ever heard of the show "my strange addiction" - people can and do have some very strong, very unusual addictions/compulsions. Also, as I stated earlier, addictions are typically a symptom of some underlying anxieties/stresses that are being pushed to the side by indulging in the addiction. You are correct in that people ultimately need to develop a strong desire to overcome their addiction, but your faceless false bravado isn't helping. Addictions/anxieties can be complex and difficult things to overcome - were overcoming them as simple as "manning up", there would of course be no need for mental health professionals, life coaches etc. - and it's certainly not healthy to repress your anxieties/stresses without really dealing with them while affecting a false "macho" demeanor.
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#49PhilOnDezPosted 3/19/2014 6:09:22 PM
^Eeyup. I was about to type up pretty much exactly that post.
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#50BogePosted 3/19/2014 7:23:34 PM
Clouddx posted...
I have extreme anxiety caused by lack of GABA in my body. It's terrible and I feel for you, but you need to go see a doctor if the anxiety is so bad it's literally stopping you from living your life normally.


I have been. Nothing is helping. I've been trying different medications as well as counseling.

It's not a fun thing to live making every single decision based on what will cause the least amount of pain rather than what will give you the most pleasure. And believing I'll regret it if I kill myself just holds me in this suffering life until my clock finally runs out and I can have "the sweet release of death."
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