Shale is a dwarf. She was turned into a golem. Go do the sidequest. She is a girl. Didn't you see the thing at the end of the game where Shale and Wynn head out together to go find a way to cure Shale?
....dwarves are manly, even the females have beards. (well not in DA:O, but they got that wrong, those are like gnomes or something)
...and well elves are feminine, you can have sex with them and not be ***. cuz its with an elf.
Well considering dwarves are fantasy creatures, there is no "true" description of one. To try and pretend any game's dwarfs are "wrong" is ridiculous. It's like trying to argue that unicorns have to always be pink.
So if a man dresses feminine and wears dresses/makeup, then it isn't gay to sleep with him? -_-;;
A male elf has male parts. That is pretty much the deciding factor on what gender a creature is.