I disagree with you TC, Dragons Dogma could be what your looking for. It's an amazing game with as much or as little as you want to do. The community is second to none & the pawns are a way of helping you out if things get to much.
Suns suggestions are spot on, although I really don't think Fable 3 fits what you're looking for.
Some others to look at are, Divinity 2 and Dark Souls. If you're wanting to jump straight into it without to much thought, then Dark Souls probably isn't the best choice.
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