What's the appeal of playing as a dude? I"M a dude. I see one in the mirror every day. I have zero desire to spend my time looking at a muscly, sweaty 'roid monster and pretend its me.
If I'm going to have a character on my screen, I'd like one I don't mind looking at, thanks.
^ Self-hating homosexual
How could I hate me? I'm awesome. If the guy on my screen looked like me, he'd be awesome too. I'm awesome enough that I have absolutely no desire to pretend to be anyone else, thus, "male power fantasy" doesn't come into play for me, it's just a guy on my screen.
And if he's not playing his role as a Skandrae stand-in, what purpose does he serve?