how exactly do you save i saw the topic asking where the person said hit esc and click save and load, when i hit esc there is no save and load just return to game, new game, help and settings, quit, do i have to get to a certain part of the game to be able to save? --- I'm sorry Wendy but I just don't trust anything that bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die.
I'm betting it's a problem with the crack you're probably using to play the game. I saw people on the official board being called out for this same issue. Not judging.. just stating a known problem with pirated copies.
When you first enter the Save/Load screen, the focus will be on the AutoSave Slot, at least the first time. Click on one of the other slots (2-6), and the Load Game will become Save Game. You have to click towards the left side of the Save Game label for some reason.